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SEXOPATHY: ADDICTION TO SEX

Sex addiction is an uncontrollable need for sex of all kinds, as in all addictions, impulsive desire is the root cause of all addictive behavior, it is this uncontrollable compulsion that needs to be directly and adequately addressed so that there can be a true remedy. Sex addiction is a chronic psycho-organic disorder that requires adequate medical and psychological treatment, being the disease progressive and fatal.

We can not appeal to reason to disengage from an addiction even knowing that it is very harmful to our lives, the intellect does not have enough power to eradicate it, it will only serve to deny and justify our actions.

To relieve the anxiety produced by the obsessions, a series of behaviors called compulsions are carried out, these serve to momentarily lower the anguish when the addict manages to satisfy their needs. Erotic literature is the first ladder in addiction, with fantasies and compulsive masturbation, evolving later to live pornography, fetishes and love adventures.

The most advanced phase can lead us to break the limit of legality with abuse, voyeurism, exhibitionism even reaching rape. Although the addict fights against himself in a battle to gain control of the disease, the fact is that biochemical changes occur in the brain and only an intensive psychotherapeutic intervention can help to overcome this disorder. The addictive behavior produces victims in addition to putting one’s own life in danger and that of others for possible sexual transmission.

The fact that sexual abuse in childhood is found in a high percentage of sex addicts is very remarkable, you should ask for help as soon as possible if we are caught in this type of compulsion, the treatment does not aim to achieve sexual abstinence, but redirect sexual behavior towards healthier forms of behavior.

It is especially important to know the reasons that drive these addictions, such as a strong anxiety base, difficulties in relating, emotional insecurity or sexual identity problems. We can not find any justification for such harmful behaviors therefore we must seek the necessary assistance to help us to be cured of this disorder and be able to redirect our life again.

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LA PROYECCIÓN

Es habitual sentir en secreto que los demás siempre son los que nos agravian, son los que están equivocados, los culpables de que nuestro mundo no funcione como debería, pero cuando analizamos las situaciones desde una mirada más profunda y desde la información que nos puede brindar un auténtico método de autoconocimiento, vemos que en multitud de tesituras, estamos utilizando un mecanismo de defensa psíquico que se llama proyección.

Proyectamos de forma totalmente inconsciente, donde atribuimos a otras personas los propios motivos, deseos o emociones, es una forma de ocultación de parte de nuestra vida psíquica y es una consecuencia directa de la sanción o censura interna ante temores, frustraciones e incluso conflictos no resueltos.

Este tipo de mecanismo puede dar lugar a comportamientos poco adaptados que dificultan la convivencia enormemente, todos proyectamos en mayor o menor medida, pero hay proyecciones verdaderamente patológicas que cuando son excesivas pueden ser peligrosas para la integridad psíquica. Esto sucede cuando tenemos un yo muy débil o escindido, que esta alienado de la realidad, al proyectar nuestras propias ideaciones fuera, se convierten en delirios, como los de grandeza, omnipotencia o persecución. Pero sin llegar a estos extremos tan disfuncionales, el mecanismo es utilizado habitualmente como una dinámica psicológica, que intenta evitar fragmentar la imagen que tenemos autoconstruida sobre nosotros mismos.

Hemos crecido utilizando este mecanismo que nuestra mente ha programado para protegernos, pero esto no quiere decir que sus efectos en nuestra vida no tengan consecuencias, sobre todo a nivel relacional. Proyectar nos dificulta enormemente conectar con las personas que queremos, porque tienen que asumir una carga psíquica y emocional que no les pertenece, y a la larga, la relación siempre se resentirá por el desequilibrio que esta dinámica produce.

Cuando nos comprometemos a desarrollar nuestro crecimiento interno, todos los psicodinamismos defensivos deben identificarse y como consecuencia de ello, fortaleceremos nuestro yo y nuestra proyección en el mundo va a poder consolidarse con más fuerza, siendo nuestras relaciones más auténticas y menos disfuncionales.

Una vez reconocidos todos nuestros temores, deseos y conflictos no resueltos, ya no necesitará nuestra mente, proyectarlos fuera de nuestro sistema, porque estarán asimilados en nuestro psiquismo desde la consciencia y podremos finalmente hacernos cargo de todos nuestros lastres.

 

 

 

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AGGRESSIVENESS IN SEX

The aggressive drive is a response to the disturbance caused by different basic needs, there is a close relationship between the circuits of aggression and those of reproduction in the limbic brain, due to this concordance we might think that this would explain why some people experience pleasure with violence or have aggressive sexual behaviors.

Recent research shows that when the mechanism of reproduction is activated in the brain, you can´t trigger at the same time the aggressiveness, for this reason we can´t give a purely genetic interpretation of the existence of aggressive behavior in sex.

Experiences and education contribute to the structuring of emotions, in puritanical societies that stimulate constant seduction but deny satisfaction, generate sexual discharges that are much more aggressive and perverse. Also masochistic pornography where violence and sexual arousal come together can help a conditioned association between sexual arousal and violent responses.

We see that sexual aggressiveness is related to intrapsychic conflicts where the drive can’t be neutralized or channeled by more affectionate sexual expressions. Sex is part of our life from the moment we are born and in a first stage our libido is expressed through autoerotism evolving as we grow, we are sexed beings and our mental health will depend on how we have integrated our drives with our affections, only then we can express ourselves in a complete way.

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