When pain sets in our behavior and suffering becomes unbearable we feel powerless to restore the lost balance, we try to understand how we lost our flow in living, as our parts that formed a solid image began to change into fragmented pieces, blurring our coherence in this reality. It is the moment when we need a different vision, a new perspective from which to focus our experiential dynamics and how we can not apprehend our own subjectivity, we must add distance to our narrow and partial approach.

The therapist gives us the possibility to reorder and discern our symptoms, to name the omitted and to consent our most visceral part of our psyche, becoming a catalyst that transmutes our inability and suffering, in confidence and understanding to achieve our own healing.

But the act of healing only belongs to us, the therapist offers his empathy to reach the other, without judgments without expectations and restore confidence in self-healing, being the most powerful bond that affection exists, through it, is transmitted all the emotional support a damaged person needs. In therapy we can provide our knowledge, our technique but in the end what gets someone to move from their distress is the bond.

This allows the resistances to disappear and the repressed can be transferred, in an act to link where the therapist in return, will return structure and empathic understanding, enabling the connection of our meanings and giving coherence to our whole history. The therapist in the understanding and total acceptance of the legitimate pain of his patient, provides the possibility that he can know his fragmented and dissociated inner world, rebuilding a new history that incorporates everything unnamed and self-healing all contracted wounds. Finally the reflection in the Other helper confronts us with our own imago that has recovered all its sharpness and lost cohesion.